Tuesday, April 12, 2011

The Fourth Finger on my Left Hand

"I see you are still wearing your wedding ring."

Yes. I am. And I will.

I didn't choose to be single; I chose to be married.

I am single, but he did not choose to leave; neither did I.

"Do you think you'll ever get married again?"

I don't know.

I know I have two little boys to raise, and that task calls for all I have. I can't afford any distractions, really at all.

I'm not interested in dating. (The very idea makes me a little nauseous.) I can't afford to introduce my children to someone who may not be here to stay.

I'm a single mom. This role is too important.

I would rather do it alone than do it wrong.

And if my future holds the gift of marriage, it won't be because a searching someone spotted me from across the room and saw that I don't have a ring on my finger.

The ring stays.


Donna said...


I have been reading since January but never commented before. I know you from LA, but you probably don't know me as neither of my children had the privledge of having you for a teacher.
"I would rather do it alone than do it wrong". What a profound, wise, and amazing statement. You will never do it alone...He is the Father to the Fatherless. What a prevledge to read your blog!

Donna said...

I meant to say Privilege
sorry teacher!! :)

Lisa Amoroso-Johnson said...

I'm somewhat stunned that anyone would ask about your ring and your future marital plans....((Hugs)).

Claire said...


Michelle said...

Your writings are so precious and as I read them you are exactly where God wants you to be and doing things that touch other peoples lives.That is God speaking through you. Keep the Faith and keep your walk with God he will continue to lead you and guide you. Love MIchelle

Lori Hefner Marshall said...

Again, you do not know me, but I feel I know you so well. I am friend of your parents from Ohio Baptist Acres and the AkronBaptist Temple. I want to say that you will never know how far reaching your words are spread and amount of God's wisdom you are sharing. I personally have been so blessed by your writings and have shared it with many. You are an amazing woman and God is using you mightily. I hope in some small way that brings some comfort to you.
God Bless!

Penny said...

Keep wearing your rings proudly. They represent so much! I don't know how anyone (especially someone in a healthy relationship themselves) could possibly ask you that question! There is no way you're ready for those kinds of decisions~ you're still healing. You are going to make wise and careful decisions with your and your sons' future. Your writing is so emotional and insightful, I have total faith that you will triumph. Donna is right~ you are NOT alone.... ever. :)

Janeen said...


I read the first lines, and said, "well, of course!"

Sorry you had to explain this to someone. You've been in my prayers this week...